Every feature in CoPa
One subscription. Both parents included.
Schedule and custody
Custody calendar with templates
Set up your schedule in under a minute. Built-in templates for the most common rotations: 2-2-5-5, 3-4-4-3, alternating weeks, every weekend, every other weekend with midweek visit. Build a custom pattern if none of the templates fit. Both parents see the same calendar, color-coded by household, with custody days, transfer times, and exchange locations.
Holiday and exception overrides
Holidays and special days sit on a separate layer from your regular rotation. Override Thanksgiving in even years, Christmas Eve in odd years, your kid's birthday for whoever has the day. Past holidays remain on the record so there's no question later about who had the day.
Schedule change requests with audit trail
Either parent can propose a swap. The other approves, denies, or counter-proposes, with an optional note. Approved swaps update the calendar automatically. Every action is appended to an audit log that cannot be overwritten or backdated. The audit log exports as part of any record export.
Right of First Refusal
If your parenting plan includes a Right of First Refusal clause, CoPa handles the workflow. When a parent can't cover their custody time (work travel, illness), they offer those hours to the other parent first, with a deadline. The other parent accepts or declines. The full notification trail is part of the record.
Calendar sync to Google, Apple, Outlook
Subscribe to your CoPa custody schedule as a live iCal feed in Google Calendar, Apple Calendar, or Outlook. Other co-parenting apps offer static file exports you have to re-download manually — CoPa's feed updates automatically. One-tap setup, no extra login. Choose to sync your full schedule or just the transfer events.
This matters because keeping your custody schedule in one app and the rest of your life in another is friction you live with every day. We removed it.
Communication
Structured messaging
Messages live in a single conversation stream. No topics to manage, no threads to navigate. When something comes up in court, you search or export by date range. The entire record is in one place, in order.
Every message is timestamped at the server. Once sent, messages cannot be edited or deleted. This is intentional and non-negotiable: the record is the record.
Calm Reading
Calm Reading is an AI feature that rewrites incoming messages into neutral, factual language. It strips emotional charge while preserving every date, amount, and specific request the sender made.
It runs on the receiver's side only. The sender's message is never altered, and the sender doesn't know whether their co-parent reads the calm version. The legal record is always the original. A calm version is generated automatically when each message is sent and cached for up to 14 days as a reading aid — it's never included in any export. You can tap once to see the original at any time. You choose whether to view calm or original in Settings, and you can switch any time.
Calm Reading doesn't soften your co-parent or game the conversation. It gives you a way to read the message without the punch landing first.
SMS Relay
Either parent can add SMS Relay at any time. CoPa assigns a dedicated phone number. Text that number and the message lands in the app. Reply from the app and it goes out as SMS. Every message, both directions, hits the same court-ready record.
Two common reasons to use it: your co-parent won't install the app, or one of you just prefers texting over opening another app. Either way, the record is identical to in-app messaging. Calm Reading still works on SMS messages. Exports look the same.
SMS Relay is $7/month. The number is yours for as long as the add-on is active. After cancellation, the number is quarantined for 180 days before being recycled, given the sensitivity of what may have flowed through it.
Bridge Notes
A short structured note from the parent doing dropoff, sent before pickup. Captures what the receiving parent will want to know in the next 12 hours: how the kid slept, mood, anything new with food or health, school items going home in the backpack.
The receiving parent sees it as a notification. The full history exports as a per-child timeline. No other co-parenting app does this. We built it because the curb conversation at handoff is the worst part of co-parenting, and a written note 30 minutes ahead solves most of it.
Records and evidence
Immutable message history
Once a message is sent, it's part of the record. No editing. No deleting. No "I didn't mean to send that." This is true for both of you.
Exportable, formatted records
Generate a PDF of any date range in two taps. Exports include sender, recipient, server timestamp, and content, formatted for legal use. Every export is GPG-signed for tamper detection (more on that below).
Audit trails on schedule changes and approvals
Every schedule change request (proposed, approved, denied, expired) is logged with timestamp and actor. The audit trail is part of the record export and cannot be edited.
Private journal
A personal log only you can see. Your co-parent has no access and no notification that it exists. Tag entries (incident, behavior, medical, custody) and export to PDF for your attorney or therapist. Save a screenshot, photo, or document from any app on your phone directly into a journal entry, timestamped at capture.
The journal exists because some things you need to document don't belong in a shared conversation. A phone call you weren't recorded for, a comment your kid made, a screenshot of your co-parent's social media. They belong in a private log that's still timestamped and exportable.
Money
Expense ledger
Log shared costs, attach receipts, set custom splits (not just 50/50), and track a running balance. Categories cover medical, school, extracurriculars, daycare, clothing, and custom buckets. The other parent gets a notification, can dispute or approve, and the back-and-forth lives on the same audit trail as everything else.
We track the math, you move the money
CoPa logs expenses, calculates splits, and keeps a running balance — but never holds or moves your money. When it's time to settle up, tap once to open Venmo, Zelle, or whatever you already use with the amount ready to go. The ledger is the hard part, and that's what we built.
Documents and daily life
Document vault
Upload your parenting agreement, school enrollment forms, medical records, insurance cards, custody orders. Both parents can access the vault. Files are stored encrypted, accessible via signed time-limited links.
Item Tracker
Track where kids' belongings are between houses. Soccer cleats at Dad's. Dance bag at Mom's. Glasses, unknown. Both parents see the same list, organized by child. Update with a single tap when something moves.
When something goes missing, mark it unknown and add a note. One less recurring fight.
GPG-signed evidence packages
When you export from CoPa, everything comes digitally signed: messages, schedule changes, expenses, Bridge Notes. That signature is proof that nothing has been changed since the records left our servers. Your attorney can verify it independently, no screenshots or printouts required.
Most co-parenting apps hand you a PDF and call it done. CoPa gives you the PDF, the raw data, and a cryptographic seal that makes any tampering obvious. Two taps to generate. One file to hand your lawyer.
For attorneys, mediators, and parenting coordinators
CoPa includes free portal access for the legal and family professionals working with both parents. We don't charge for the third-party seat. Recommending CoPa to your client shouldn't add to your firm's software costs, and your access shouldn't depend on which client invited you.
See the Legal Portal in detail →What's not in CoPa
A short list of things we left out on purpose.
No advertising. Not now, not later.
Your co-parenting communication is not training data, not ad inventory, and not for sale.
No social feed.
CoPa is for you and your co-parent, not for performance.
No gamification.
No streaks. No badges. Co-parenting is not a game; we won't pretend it is.
No public reviews of co-parents.
A few competitors have toyed with peer-rating systems. We won't.